I’ve hosted thousands of Pleasure Parties over the past 10 years. After a couple of hours of
sex toy talk and tons of wine, these women will tell me every detail of their
love life, whether they’re over the moon or trudging through a sexual dry patch.
Ten years and thousands of conversations later, and the same five issues come up over and over. Here’s some super-simple ways to spice up your sex life almost immediately, as told by women like you:
1. Help her out around the house.
If you’ve been living together any amount of time (and especially if you have kids), your woman wants and needs help. If she does all the cooking, cleaning, bill paying, and child rearing, she’ll start to feel resentful. Hurt feelings means no nookie for you.
So, gas up the car and give it a wash. Take out the trash or even cook dinner one night, all without her asking. Men who cook and clean?
Sexy. I guarantee she’ll want you to clean her
clock later on.
2. Kiss her passionately, and often.
Men get turned on by visuals. Women are tactile and like being touched. And luckily for you, our lips are super-sensitive. Kissing isn’t just for romance, so don’t skip this step. It makes us wet, more orgasmically inclined, and very lusty.
Spend at least five minutes kissing her and really getting into it, paying attention to the taste of her tongue and the sounds she makes before you reach for the goods. She might surprise you and reach for yours instead.