How To Overcome The Fear Of Sex

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Intercourse, sexual touch, oral sex, no matter who you are, any form of sex can be a very scary thing.., especially if it's your first time. To overcome your fear and become more comfortable in a sexual relationship, use these techniques. Below that you’ll find instructions for easing into a comfortable sexual session.

1. Learn how to please yourself. How can you expect anyone else to push your buttons if you’re not      even sure where they are? Set a mood that works for you (roses and candles      for some, boots and leather for others), fantasize, and touch yourself everywhere. The human body has      quite a few erogenous zones (the biggest of which is in the brain), so if      you immediately gallop toward the privates, you’ll be missing layers and      layers of what it means to be sexual.

Experiment with a variety of touches. Ah, so you’ve found something that kicks your libido into high gear. Congratulations! Now whatever you do, do not keep repeating that technique ad infinitum. Locking yourself into only one style of pleasure will make it extremely difficult for anyone else to satisfy you. Even if they manage to master your technique, the two of you will then be locked into a strict routine, which is a libido killer.

Avoid watching porn when you first learn to self-please. Though there’s nothing wrong with enjoying porn, it can make you more visually dependent (i.e. less mentally and emotionally creative) when it comes to sex, which can dampen your satisfaction in the real world. Instead, create a variety of tantalizing scenarios in your head and imagine yourself living them out; it will make you a more creative lover.

2. Don’t have sex unless you’re very turned on. Maybe you’ve given yourself an ultimatum to lose your virginity. Maybe you’ve made a weekly sex schedule with your partner. And maybe you’ll be glad of it when the time comes. But whatever you do, don’t have sex until your body is on the same page as your mind. Enjoy as much kissing, touching, foreplay, dirty talk, and other forms of stimulation as you need before having intercourse.

Lack of arousal makes sex very painful for women this includes digital (finger or touching) stimulation. When a woman is aroused, her vagina becomes wet (which lubricates, making entry easier and reducing painful friction), widened and elongated (which makes it able to accommodate a penis or other inserted item), and swollen (making sex pleasurable and encouraging orgasm).^[1][2] If you’re afraid of sexual discomfort, honor your body by asking for extra time and TLC before having sex.

3. Experiment with other forms of sex first. “Sex” is a huge word that encompasses a lot of acts, and intercourse isn’t the end-all, be-all. In fact, going straight from kissing to intercourse is a wasted opportunity to have fun, add spice to your love life, and practice your technique with your partner. As you travel down the path of your sexuality, be sure to make pit stops at rubbing, humping, and any other techniques you think of along the way.

4. Don’t be afraid to take charge of the situation. Though it might seem embarrassing to be vocal about what you want, sexual assertiveness is a big turn-on for most people. (Don’t confuse this with aggressiveness – unless that’s what you’re both into.) Take the reins by telling your partner what you want – even if it’s what you want them to do to you.

5. Get to know the person you're thinking of having sexual relations with. Rushing into sex isn’t a good way to create intimacy or spice things up – especially if you feel pressured to do so. Make it clear whether you will be emotionally involved or if it is just a fling. If your feelings do change, tell your partner.

6. Find the root of your aversion reaction. If you have an unpleasant sexual history, you’ve probably developed a knee-jerk negative reaction to sex. Instead of feeling guilty or ashamed of your feelings, acknowledge and validate them so that you can work through them productively. Most importantly, don’t do it for anyone else; do it for yourself.

If sex does not feel pleasurable, spend more alone time finding your own erogenous zones. Pleasure yourself without pressure, deadlines, or stress. If even relaxed masturbation feels painful, talk to a doctor. You may have a condition such as dyspareunia.

If sex feels more like a duty than an adventure, respect your emotional needs, which are not being met. Did sex start out as something you did in the spirit of generosity that then become a dreaded obligation? Talk to your partner about trying new techniques. Show him or her what you’d like to do and have done to you. If hurt feelings are a potential problem area, package the whole thing as fun and experimentation, not frustration or revulsion. Whatever you do, don’t give up on improving the situation; having sex solely to please someone else is a surefire way to grow to hate it.

If you’ve had a traumatic sexual experience, you should focus on self-pleasure before you work up to partner sex. Reconnect with your body, which you may feel has been taken from you. Forget about anyone else’s needs or opinions until you’ve reestablished your relationship with yourself, ideally with the help of a therapist. Once you feel excited about making love again, establish a safe, slow, trusting relationship with someone before even considering having sex. You’ll probably find that being open with your partner will make them much more patient and understanding.

How to Ease into a Comfortable Sexual Session

1. Find a comfortable setting.      Overcoming your fear takes time and requires a comfortable, relaxing      environment. Avoid distractions (television, computer, unlocked door) that      will put you in the wrong head space when you’re supposed to be enjoying      yourself.
2. Take it slow.      With your partner in the comfortable setting of your choice, approach the      situation slowly. If your partner wants to race to the finish line, smile      (a smile goes a long way in easing tension) and say it’ll be hotter if you      both slow down.

If your partner won’t go at your pace, don’t have sex with them. Sex isn’t something you give someone, it’s an experience you share. If someone tries to pressure you sexually, take ownership of your body by getting out of there – and be glad you dodged a bullet.

3. Start with kissing and holding hands, then move      into deeper kissing. If you feel you're      starting to get uncomfortable again, pull back a little and let your      partner know.
4. Touch each other through your clothing. Agree not to remove your clothes, which will give you a sense of      psychological security, and then explore each other’s bodies. Within this      safety net, it’ll be much easier to allow yourself to feel turned on.

Giving massages is a great way to pleasure your partner without engaging in strictly sexual touching.

5. Talk about what you liked and how you felt      during the touching. Letting your partner      know what you enjoy is incredibly helpful, and unless they have a      dangerously delicate ego (a huge red flag), they’ll be thankful for the      information.

You may reflect that your body and mind felt very differently during the experience. Perhaps your body loved it (maybe a pleasurable noise even escaped you) but, mentally, you weren’t at ease. Be sure to tell your partner so that they can help you overcome your anxiety about that touch while still taking into consideration your feelings.

6. Try more intimate touching and try      experimenting. If you’re nervous, tell your partner you      want to go first so that you can touch and please them a bit before being      touched yourself. Have them touch you next. Relax, take deep breaths, and      tell your partner if you're uneasy.
7. Communicate with your partner. Contrary to what the movies would have us believe, sex is very much      a trial-and-error process. Anyone who expects every moment of it to be      smooth and suave is in for a world of embarrassment.
8. Have sex if      and when you’re ready.This includes sexual      touching, doing so before both people are ready can do unfixable damage to      the relationship and your mental health on sex for many years to come.      Make sure you know How to Have Safe Sex before you start.

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Melvin and Dillish in hot kissing and groping session BBA

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The singletons of The Chase are still sticking to their group sleeping arrangements and from the looks of things they are having a blast bumping beds with one another.

As the Chasemates prepared to go to sleep in the middle of the night, Melvin jumped on top of Dillish and planted playful kisses on her neck and made loud kissing noises. The naughty Namibian did not mind of course. After all there is no bigger flirt in the Big Brother House than Dillish. The Namibian has even said so herself.

But the kisses planted by Melvin on Dillish today were just in jest as the two clearly like to have good clean fun together. But what do you think; could all of the playfulness between these Ruby buddies eventually lead into something more or are they destined to remain as platonic friends?

The brutal killing of Delsu student, Ify Gabriel Nwainokpor & friend

On Sunday 21st July 2013, Ify Gabriel Nwainokpor and his friend Kasim were attacked and beaten to death by a mob at the Ajara area of Badagry on the ground that their faces looked strange in the neighborhood, this is according to the people who posted the video of their lynching on Youtube.

They claim that the Nigerian Police (Badagry division) watched as these men were hacked to death before their prime. They are crying out to the world for justice and brought the barbaric incident to the attention of the media. Another lynching? This is unbelievable.

I would not advise it but if you have the heart to watch, then find the mob video HERE...and find a comprehensive report of the sad incident from Punch after the cut...

Punchng.com reports:

Policemen attached to the Badagry Police Division, Lagos State, and some hoodlums have been accused of killing a 25-year-old undergraduate of Delta State University, Ifechukwude Nwainokpor, and his friend, identified simply as Kazeem.

An eight-minute video clip of the gruesome killing, which was made available to PUNCH Metro, showed the two victims handcuffed together. They were covered in their own blood and beaten to death with sticks. Tyres were also put round their necks.

An irate mob could be seen in the video, shouting, “die, die, burn them, burn them.”

At some points in the video, a policeman was seen interviewing the boys. He asked who sent them (victims) to rob the area, an accusation they denied. One of the hoodlums, holding a sharp object attempted to cut off the private part of one of the victims.

Nwainokpor could be seen pleading with the hoodlums and policemen to spare his life, saying he could identify himself if given a chance. His plea, however, fell on deaf ears.

Our correspondent, who visited the family of Nwainokpor  on Tuesday, learnt that the lynching took place around 3pm on July 21, 2013 in Ajara area of Badagry, a community not far from Nwainokpor’s family home.

His father, Samuel, told PUNCH Metro that his son was arrested while passing through a street in the area  but a misunderstanding later ensued and the hoodlums pounced on  him  and Kazeem.

He added that  Nwainokpor, who was nicknamed Ify, was a final year student of Geology and Mining.

He said, “On that particular day, I was in Ghana when I received a telephone call  that I should come immediately. My wife was in Delta State taking care of her mother.

“When I arrived two days later, my relatives and the caretaker of my house told me that my son was killed in the Ajara area along with his friend. I was devastated.

“I got my son a temporary job with a Customs licensed agent since their lecturers were on strike.  He worked everyday except on Sundays when he visited his friends. On that day, he went to see Kazeem and they were strolling around Ajara.”

Samuel said because there had been a robbery in Ajara four days earlier, some of the residents were on the lookout for strange faces.

He added that when the youth  saw two unknown young men, they  accosted them and an argument ensued.

He said the youth called the head of the vigilante group in the area, one Asiribo.

He said, “Asiribo came to the scene with a locally-made pistol and handcuffs. He handcuffed my son and his friend before asking them questions.

“Later, it was decided that the boys be taken to the Baale, Agano Oniyon of Agamade Ajara. But as they were going, Asiribo, while trying to return his gun into its pouch, mistakenly shot himself in the stomach and died.”

Samuel said Asiribo’s death infuriated the youth, who  blamed the boys for  his  death.

“The mob picked up sticks and beat them to death. Policemen were there,” he  said.

Holding back tears, the retired immigration officer added  that the police treated the matter as a robbery case. Beating  his chest,  Samuel said there was no way his son would have been involved in  armed robbery.

He said, “I have been living in Badagry since 1982. I have only two children and Ifechukwude  is the  first. Ironically, he was born in that same area where he was killed.

“I have lived in this area without any trouble and  the residents  can tell you that my sons are good  boys.”

Nwainokpor’s boss, Aloysius Onyenibedi, described him as an honest and hardworking person.

“I trusted him to the extent that I used to keep a lot of money with him. He was good to my children and was honest,” he said.

The Nwainokpor family berated the Divisional Police Officer, Badagry Police Station,  Dankoli Mohammed, for the manner he treated the case.

Samuel said when he approached the DPO, he was told that his son was killed at midnight for armed robbery.

He said, “When the policemen came to take the corpses, guns were planted on them. Policemen at the station told the DPO that they were robbers. Their corpses were taken along with that Asiribo to Badagry General Hospital’s mortuary.

“The following morning, the DPO released Asiribo’s corpse for burial without investigation. My relatives went to the station and after showing the DPO the video, the matter was transferred to the Area K Command.

“At Present, Asiribo’s son has fled, while the DPO has been unable to identify the policemen who were present at the scene when my son  and his friend were killed.”

PUNCH Metro however learnt that through the video, some people had arrested one of the perpetrators. The suspect had been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department,  Panti, Yaba.

The spokesperson for the state police command, Ngozi Braide, said, “The incident is quite pathetic. Even if they were armed robbers, no one has the right to take the life of another. Why then do we have the police and the judiciary? The Nigerian police as well as the law condemn mob action and jungle justice. The commissioner of police has set up a high- powered investigation body to investigate the matter.”

Man Jumps Fence To Have Sex With Mad Woman In Lagos Asylum

Officials of the Lagos State Government have arrested a 21-year old man, Lateef Sulaiman, for allegedly scaling a 14-feet fence to gain entrance into the Lagos State Rehabilitation and Training Centre, Majidun area of Ikorodu, Lagos, southwest Nigeria, to have sex with a mad woman.

Sulaiman was said to have jumped into the female dormitory around 9.30 p.m. recently and had sex with a deranged woman before he was arrested and handed over to the taskforce at Alausa.

In his confessional statement at the taskforce headquarters, Sulaiman allegedly said he had had sex with a mad woman at the rehabilitation centre on five occasions before his arrest, saying that he knew where the female dormitory was because he had gone to the centre in the past to seek employment and had thoroughly studied the environment.

He was arraigned at the Special Offences Court, Alausa in Ikeja for his alleged offence

Sulaiman was slammed with a four-count charge. In the first count charge, he was said to have scaled the 14-feet fence of the rehabilitation home and slept with a  mentally ill inmate and thus committed an offence punishable under the laws of Lagos State.

Having pleaded not guilty, he was granted bail in the sum of N50, 000 with two sureties who must be civil servants and present evidence of tax payment for five years.

Sulaiman could not meet the bail conditions and was remanded at the Badagry Prison.

Special Adviser to the Governor on Youth and Social Development, Dr. Dolapo Badru, lamented that there is a lot of satanic rituals going on in the society, wondering what could have made a young man scale the fence to sleep with a mad woman.

“It is this same satanic ritual that makes a herbalist to tell a man to bring the private part of somebody to be used for rituals without killing the person in order to get rich,” he said.

He said it is senseless and baseless for a man to want to sleep with a mad woman, thinking that his fortune in life would change for the better.

According to him, the only thing such a bizarre act could do to a man was to make him contract deadly diseases.

“This act is simply part of the activities of ritualists and a way to get money in a quick means. The case is in court,” he said.

Hon.Chidi Llyod Unable To Walk As He Appears In Court for The First Time(Photos

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He appeared in court yesterday aided by his supporters as he could not walk on his own. Some weeks back, he was agile and hit a fellow law maker with a metal mace.

He was charged with attempted murder.

More pictures after the cut

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My Ordeal In The Nest of Ritual Killers-Man Tells His Story

Eze Obasi is a motor mechanic  from Aninri Local Government Area of Enugu State. He resides at Oraifite Street, but has his workshop on Aku Street, all at  the Ogui New Layout  of  the Coal City.

That fateful Sunday in April, Eze had dressed up and was set to go for a child dedication with one of his friends but never had any inkling that he was heading for an encounter with the devil.

By the time he got to Aku Street, he could not find his friend. He then decided to cross over to Edinburgh Roundabout to recharge his phone and call him. He never made that call.  Rather, he found himself on a journey into a thick bush at  Akokwa, Ideato Local Government Area of Imo State, where he was to be offered to the gods as  sacrifice.

Two months after the traumatic experience from  which God saved him, Eze is still in shock and has found it difficult to believe that he could have died three months ago. The following is Eze Obasi’s story as told by him.

“It was a Sunday and  I came out at the popular Edinburgh Roundabout, (the home of newspapers and vendors) in central Enugu and I saw one man who told me he was looking for a mechanic that would help fix his car. I told him I am a mechanic and requested to know where the vehicle was. He said it was parked at the WTC junction nearby, so I went and brought some tools and followed him.

“By the time we got there, I discovered that there were four young men. I opened the bonnet of the car, a Mercedes Benz V-Boot, which was bearing a government number plate. I stood in front of the bonnet and  by then all the four men were by my side. I asked them what was wrong with the car and they said it wasn’t starting, so I bent over to check the engine.

“In the split of a second, I discovered that a substance had been blown into my face and had entered my eyes. I screamed ‘my eyes oh’! And just as I struggled to regain balance and clear my face, the men guided me into the car, which sped off. Before we got  to the University of Nigeria, Enugu Campus, UNEC, gate, I was already feeling sleepy and soon slept off.

“When I regained  consciousness, I discovered that I was in a bush and it was later that  I found out that I had been taken to somewhere in Akokwa, in the Ideato area of Imo State. I was very weak but was able to notice a group of young men inside a room nearby. It was then I said some prayers telling God that I only tried to help people in need and that in my town such gesture does not attract curse or condemnation.

“About an hour later, it was very dark and  noise started coming from the room and a red curtain on the door began to shake. Suddenly someone came from behind the curtains holding something like a bottle that had a blinking light. He ran the light through my body from head to toe and went back.  When he got close to the curtain, he asked who brought me to that place. He turned round and used the bottle to hit me and immediately I regained full consciousness. But as I tried to get up, I realized that I was tied to a bench.  Three of them came forward and untied me and led me through the bush to a point where the men touched me and immediately disappeared and I started struggling on my own to find a way out of the bush.

“It was very late by the time I got to the main road. I didn’t know where I was but I continued moving until I saw a woman. I asked her where that place was and she said it’s Akokwa in Imo State and asked who brought me to that place. I told her my story and she directed me to go straight on till I got to a junction. She said  one of the roads leads to Aba-Port Harcourt road and that the other leads to Arondizuogu, while the third leads to Nnewi. She advised me to take the route towards Nnewi that I would see a vehicle that would take me to Anambra.

“I told her that I didn’t have any money on me and she brought out N500 and gave to me. I asked her how I would see her again to return her money and the woman asked me to go first; that I didn’t realize what God had done for me.

“I boarded a vehicle and in the bus I narrated my story. The driver who took me to Anambra did not take a dime from me. I only paid a fare from Anambra to Enugu. And from New Market where the bus dropped me at about 12 midnight, I found my way back to my house at  Oraifite Street.”

It wasn’t the end of his ordeal.

Weeks after the ugly experience, Eze continued to hear strange voices and noise similar to the ones he heard coming from the mysterious house in the bush he was taken to at night.

“After narrating my story to people, I continued to hear those strange noises and languages which I didn’t understand. It always happened when I was alone. There was a language they were speaking there which I didn’t understand. So, it kept reverberating until my colleagues took me to a prayer house for prayers and thanksgiving, since then I stopped hearing the strange voices and noises .”

It was difficult for Eze to recall what those voices were saying. The only thing he remembered was  the voice that said ‘young man, go! go! go!’

He recalled that after some  incantations that the man who appeared to be their leader chanted, he said they brought the wrong person and that he should  therefore, be taken away immediately.

Describing the scenario inside the bush, Eze noted that a house was built there probably for ritual purposes. He said it has a red curtain and  the ritualists  wore  blue uniforms. He described the room as a large one with members whom, he said, tied  pieces of clothing round their heads with a cross on their foreheads.  They were about 18 in number.

Pastor Adeoye Finally Reveals Why He Married 2face's Baby Mama, Sunmbo Ajaba

When Sunmbo Ajaba, the mother of two of 2face Idibia's children married the General Overseer of Royal Christian centre, pastor David Olatunde Adeoye last week, wagging tongues did not let sleeping dogs lie.

Well, to the wagging tongues, Pastor Adeoye who lost his first wife in 2011, has a message for you:

 

 

"I love this woman" Pastor Adeoye says "With this woman there's no dull moment. She makes me complete. When you lose something and you regain it from somewhere else, you should know how it feels. She's the love of my life" turns to Sunmbo " I will forever be there for you"

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Nurse Sets 11-Year-Old Girl Ablaze In Lagos For Stealing Meat [See Photo]

Doctors at the General Hospital, Gbagada, Lagos, southwest Nigeria, are seriously battling to save the life of an 11-year old girl, Ita Bassey-Eno, who was allegedly set ablaze by the woman she lives with, Mrs Nkese Iroakazi, a nurse at a hospital in Surulere.

Iroakazi was alleged to have poured kerosene on Bassey-Eno before lighting a match stick to set her ablaze after the girl was said to have stolen a piece of meat from the pot.

Witnesses said the girl ran out of their apartment at  7, Adeniran Ogunsanya Street, Surulere, unto to the main road with fire all over her body as she cried for help from passers-by to rescue her.

It was gathered that someone quickly stopped his vehicle and used his fire extinguisher to put out the flame on her body.

The incident, which occurred last Saturday, was immediately reported at the Bode Thomas Police Station and the police from the station arrested Mrs. Nkese.

The little girl was rushed to the Burns and Trauma Centre, an annex of the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital at the General Hospital, Gbagada, for urgent attention as the doctors in the hospital said she had suffered 95 percent burns and would take a miracle for her to survive.

Bassey-Eno’s private part was damaged, while almost all her body is burnt. The whole of her body, except her face and her feet, are bandaged, while she wears pampers because her private part was damaged.

On her hospital bed on Monday when P.M.NEWS visited, the little was groaning in pains while health officials described Nkese as callous woman and that she must be made to face the music.

Executive Director, Esther Child Rights Foundation, ECRF, Mrs. Esther Ogwu, who was at the hospital to see the girl, wept when she saw her pathetic state, saying that in all her life as human rights activist, she had never come across such a gruesome case as that of the little girl.

According to Ogwu, “the situation is terrible. The doctor said the girl suffered 95 percent burns and that her private part has been damaged. This woman is more than wicked. Justice must take its course.

“One of the health officials at the General Hospital, Gbagada called me and said a woman poured kerosene on the little girl staying with her and lit up a match stick and set her ablaze. The girl ran out of the house to the main road where a Good Samaritan used her car fire extinguisher to put out the fire.”

Little Bassey-Eno, who hails from Akwa Ibom State, southsouth Nigeria, was brought from the village with another girl, Happiness Okon-Bassey, 13, to live with Nkese in June 2013 on the premose that she would send them to school, but that was not to be as the two girls allegedly performed the function of domestic servants for Nkese.

The second house girl, Okon-Bassey, said she did not see when her colleague was set ablaze but that she heard her screaming when their mistress was beating her shortly before the she saw flame all over her body when she ran outside their home.

She alleged that they were maltreated and beaten thoroughly very often and that they had no time to rest as they work almost throughout the day for their mistress without going to school, saying that they normally eat twice daily.

Daughter of the alleged culprit, Ijeoma Akiti, 27, said she was not at home when the incident occurred and that she could not tell whether her mother poured kerosene on the little girl’s body and set her ablaze, but that she heard such story at the police station.

She said her mother was first married to her father and later remarried into the family of Iroakazi and that her mother’s husband had gone on a business trip to the eastern part of Nigeria.

At the Bode Thomas Police Station, police sources alleged that the little girl confessed that her mistress poured kerosene on her. The police at the station said the woman would be transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department, SCID, Panti for further investigation into the matter, but Ogwu alleged that the police were trying to shield the woman from prosecution.

In her statement at the police station, Iroakazi denied that she poured kerosene on the little girl’s body and set her ablaze.

According to her, she was in the sitting room when she heard a loud cry and rushed out only to see the girl on fire and called on people to help put out the fire.

Officials of the Lagos State Ministry of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, WAPA, were at the hospital and the police station where they spoke with the woman, but she denied the story.

WAPA officials took Okon-Bassey, the second girl with them for rehabilitation pending when she would be reconciled with her real mother

NEW MUSIC: Wizkid Ft Wale

Wizkid teams up with Maybach Music group (MMG) artiste Wale on this crazy tune titled “Drop“, produced by Legendary Beats.

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DJ Khaled's proposal to Nicki Minaj was a publicity stunt after all

The marriage proposal was just a publicity stunt to promote a new single, I Wanna Be With You, off DJ Khaled's upcoming album.

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An award-winning Nigerian music director, Aswad Ayinde, found guilty of fathering children with his daughters will spend the rest of his life in jail.

According to Mail Online, Ayinde, 55, of Paterson, New Jersey, United States, was sentenced to 50 years in prison on Friday after being found guilty in the second of five expected trials in which he is accused of repeatedly raping his six daughters, resulting in six children being fathered.

Mr. Ayinde in his latest trial was was found guilty of many crimes including having intercourse with one of his daughters when she was as young as eight-years-old.

In a disturbing disclosure during his first trial, Mr. Ayinde’s former wife said he was trying to create a “pure family bloodline” by impregnating his daughters. He even claimed during a pre-trial hearing before the first trial that “the world was going to end, and it was just going to be him and his offspring and that he was chosen.”

In this latest trial, it was revealed that Mr. Ayinde began having intercourse with his second daughter from the time she eight-years-old, impregnating her four times.

The sexual assaults happened for almost 30 years until Mr. Ayinde and his wife separated, officials said. They occurred in numerous homes across northern New Jersey, even while the family was under watch of state child welfare officials, according to NBC New York. Some of the rapes even took place in an abandoned funeral home.

The family moving as far away as Florida to avoid investigation after case workers removed multiple children from the Ayinde household in 2000, resulting in Mr. Ayinde being arrested for kidnapping and trying to take them from state custody in a medical center, NBC New York reported.

He pleaded guilty to lesser charges and received a year’s probation – as he continued raping one daughter for at least another two years, according to officials.

The depraved father also beat and starved the girls using wooden boards and steel-toed boots for even “minor transgressions,” Ayinde’s wife testified at the first trial.

Some of the children Ayinde fathered with his daughters were born in the home, with at least two babies who died in the home having been buried without notifying authorities or obtaining birth certificates, NBC New York reported.

Ayinde’s tortured daughters were home schooled and isolated from other children, so as to keep the family secrets hidden, the station added.

With his wife too afraid to confront him, Mr. Ayinde carried out his evil plan without hindrance even while directing the music video for the Fugees 1996 breakout hit ‘Killing Me Softly, for which he won ‘Best R&B Video’ at the 1996 MTV Music Video Awards. The Fugees are also originally from Northern New Jersey.