For some people divorce comes out of nowhere. For others it builds up over a long period of time.
So how do you know when issues with your spouse might lead to separation?
Clinical psychologist Dr Melissa Keogh has written an article for Kidspot indicating the seven signs your marriage is on the rocks and might be headed for divorce.
Whilst there are some that might seem obvious, other indicators are more subtle and worth paying attention to.
On the rocks: Clinical psychologist Dr Melissa Keogh has shared the seven signs that a marriage is heading for divorce
No nookie: A lack of sex is a big sign that a marriage isn't going well, and Dr Keogh suggests going to a sex therapist if you and your partner are having problems
One of the biggest warning signs - no nookie. A lack of sex in a relationship can be a sign of major problems according to Dr Keogh.
And whilst some people have fulfilling relationships with no sex, it's worth seeing a relationship counselor or sex therapist if you're having this issue.
Another warning sign is abuse, either physical, emotional or verbal, and controlling behaviors. If a partner is abusive, and won't change their behavior, then this can lead to the end of the relationship.
Something which can be linked to abusive behavior, is an untreated personality disorder which is another warning sign of a toxic relationship.
Violence: Abuse, in any form, from a partner is also a sign that the marriage will end. People who need help and support because of abuse can contact 1800 Respect
Cheater: Serial infidelity is another sign that a marriage won't last according to Dr Keogh
Infidelity is also a marriage killer, particularly if the person continues to cheat. As Dr Keogh points out, marriage counselling can help overcome one-off incidents of cheating, but if the behaviour continues the marriage may not be viable.
This also comes down to not only the act of infidelity, but the lying and deception that comes along with it.
Another issue that this brings up is addiction. Addiction, particularly to damaging things like gambling or substances, is also a shortcut to divorce.
'The level of dishonesty and deceit commonly associated with such issues can also see trust significantly eroded over time,' Dr Keogh explains.
Biggest killer: Research has shown that feelings of contempt towards your partner is one of the biggest indicators that divorce is coming
Contempt, research has shown, is also a very bad sign for a relationship. Research conducted over 40 years showed that couples who had contempt for one another were likely to divorce.
Another lesser known sign your marriage is in bad shape is the inability to recall happy memories about your partner or the time you've spent together.
If you think back to the beginning of the relationship and can't think about it fondly, then research shows you might be headed for divorce.
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