A couples therapist says cheating can sometimes be great for a marriage — here's why

After more than 30 years in practice, couples therapist Esther Perel has seen firsthand the havoc that infidelity can wreak on a relationship. She's also witnessed the blossoming of new love and understanding between partners after the discovery of an affair.
Which is why, when people ask her whether she's "for" or "against" cheating, Perel answers, simply and frustratingly, "Yes."
In her new book, "The State of Affairs," Perel offers a nuanced perspective on infidelity — one that deliberately eschews labels and generalizations. In the book's first chapter, Perel writes:
"Because I believe that some good may come out of the crisis of infidelity, I have often been asked, 'So, would you recommend an affair to a struggling couple?' My response? A lot of people have positive, life-changing experiences that come along with terminal illness. But I would no more recommend having an affair than I would recommend getting cancer."

All the Lavish Things Paul Manafort Allegedly Bought With Laundered Money

Former Trump campaign manager Paul Manafort and his associate Richard Gates were charged Monday with engaging in money laundering, in part to hide payments from Ukraine. “In furtherance of the scheme,” the indictment accuses the two of using offshore accounts to pay a list of vendors in what it alleges are illegal wire transfers, which allowed them to avoid U.S. reporting and taxation rules.

“In order to use the money in the offshore nominee accounts of the Manafort–Gates entities without paying taxes on it, Manafort and Gates caused millions of dollars in wire transfers from these accounts to be made for goods, services, and real estate,” according to the indictment.

As a result of the more than $75 million that allegedly went through hidden offshore accounts, Manafort “used his hidden overseas wealth to enjoy a lavish lifestyle in the United States, without paying taxes on that income,” the indictment claims. It alleges Manafort laundered more than $18 million to buy personal property, goods, and services.

Actor Anthony Rapp Alleges Kevin Spacey Made a Sexual Advance Toward Him When He Was 14 Years Old

Actor Anthony Rapp has come forward with allegations that Kevin Spacey made a sexual advance toward him when he was 14 years old, BuzzFeed reports. Rapp, currently starring in Star Trek: Discovery, was a child actor in the Broadway production of George Furth’s Precious Sons in 1986 when he met Spacey, who was appearing that year in a revival of Long Day’s Journey Into Night. According to Rapp, Spacey befriended him at an after-show party; when they ran into each other at a later event, Spacey took Rapp and a 17-year-old friend of his to the Limelight, then invited him to a party at his apartment a few days later. (Rapp’s mother had relocated to New York with him during the run of the play, but he sometimes went to work events on his own.) Rapp says he went to the party, but since he was the only child in an apartment full of adults, got bored and ended up watching TV alone in the bedroom. At the end of the night, after the other guests had left, Rapp alleges that Spacey picked him up, placed him on the bed, and lay down on top of him, forcing Rapp to push him off. Spacey, now 58, was 26 years old at the time of the alleged incident. Rapp told BuzzFeed he’s never doubted Spacey’s intentions:

Lewis Hamilton wins fourth F1 title at Mexico Grand Prix 2017 – as it happened

High drama, incident, excitement and a nail-biting finale – it is unlikely Lewis Hamilton would have imagined that securing his fourth Formula One championship would prove to be such an extraordinary encounter. But at end of it all, with a ninth-place finish at the Mexican Grand Prix, he did indeed emerge as champion.

There was understandable joy and elation from the 32-year-old at his remarkable achievement in becoming the most successful British racing driver and not a little relief after a race that had the driver, his team and fans on the edge of their seats.

MAKEUP : Don't Conceal Your Dark Under-Eye Circles — ENHANCE Them

To date, I own no less than 10 concealers, both under-eye and rest-of-face. The two places they are applied the most are my under-eye area and around my nose — pretty much the areas where my face skin kind of just gives up in terms of radiance and looking alive. I appreciate my concealers, but honestly, what I don't like about complexion makeup in general is that it always tends to migrate either on its own to parts of my face where I didn't intend for it to be or underneath my fingernails when I touch my face. Gross.

As long as I've been documenting my face, my eyes have always been sallow and reddish around the edges — using lash growth serum (which I do all the time because it's kind of my thing, you know?) exacerbated this somewhat. Puffiness puffs and goes depending on how much sleep and/or crying I've been doing, but the shadows remain regardless.

Flavor Flav to Host New 'Flavor Flav's Vegas' Variety Show

The variety show will be live in Las Vegas and include comedy sketches, musical performances and sit-down celebrity interviews. Given Flav's colorful and entertaining knack for reality television (Flavor of Love, The Surreal Life), there will be a lot of room of improvisation.

Flav, who has lived in Las Vegas for 12 years, said that producing a variety show was a longtime goal. "I always dreamed of being a variety show host, and I think it's about time," he said in a statement. "It won't just be me interviewing guests, but also I'm going to have a variety of people coming through my show that are in movies and television."

7 Mistakes You're Likely Making When Concealing Your Under-Eye Area

As a working makeup artist, this is the time of year when people start to worry about how to look more awake. Today alone, on a Thursday morning, I had four back-to-back clients complaining about their under-eye circles. As our tans fade, the stress of real life coupled with fairer skin makes our under-eye area show the damage left from those Summer margaritas and the neglect of our eye area.

Women make so many mistakes (using powder to set, not using a corrector, thinking they can sweep foundation under the eyes, applying their daily face cream around the eyes, using a dry concealer, the list goes on and on) in an attempt to look well-rested. It's an uphill battle, but it can be won. Keep reading to learn how!

Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos Becomes World’s Richest Person

Jeff Bezos has again claimed the No. 1 spot on the list of the world’s wealthiest individuals, after Amazon investors pushed the stock up more than 11% on Thursday’s strong third-quarter earnings report.

Bezos, Amazon’s founder and CEO, had a net worth as of Friday morning of $91.6 billion, according to Forbes’ real-time ranking of the world’s billionaires — surpassing Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates, whose net worth stands at around $90 billion. Bezos’ fortune increased nearly $9 billion overnight, as Amazon stock was up more than 11% in Friday trading.

Scott Kelly Spent a Year in Space—Find Out How Hard It Was

What does it feel like to blast off from Earth in a rocket, knowing that you will not see your family, feel the wind on your face, or taste fresh-cooked food for a whole year?

Scott Kelly, the first NASA astronaut to spend close to a year on the International Space Station (ISS), describes how strange it was in Endurance, his new book. But he emphasizes the scientific benefits of his marathon space voyage. By comparing Kelly with his earthbound twin brother Mark, scientists were able to gather priceless information about the psychological and physiological effects of long-term space travel—information that will be crucial if we ever make the journey to Mars. [Read an excerpt from Kelly’s memoir of spending a year in space.]

When National Geographic caught up with Kelly by phone in Las Vegas, he explained how a chance encounter with a book set him on his course to the stars, why he believes we are already capable of traveling to Mars, and how he coped in space after hearing the news that his twin brother’s wife, Gabby Giffords, had been shot. [See photos of Kelly’s triumphant return to Earth.]
There’s an amazing moment in your book, Scott, when you lose your orientation in the dark during a spacewalk. Put us inside that moment and describe how it felt.

Two Women, and Their Dogs, Rescued After Nearly 5 Months Lost at Sea

They were supposed to trade one island paradise for another: a monthlong sailing trip in spring, from Honolulu to Tahiti.

But on Wednesday morning, they were discovered in the wrong hemisphere, 5,000 miles off course and nearly six months into a dream that had curdled into a nightmare.

Jennifer Appel and Tasha Fuiaba were rescued by the Navy vessel the Ashland 900 miles south of Japan, according to a statement released by the Navy on Thursday. After setting out in early May, a storm claimed their 50-foot boat’s engine on May 30. They spent the next five months adrift at sea and unable to make contact with others.

Saudi Arabia ripped after granting citizenship to robot

Saudi Arabians are up in arms because a humanoid robot who doesn’t “cover up” or abide by the country’s strict laws was granted citizenship at a tech conference in Riyadh this week.

Sophia, created by Hanson Robotics in Hong Kong, was given official status Wednesday at the Future Investment Initiative conference.

“I am very honored and proud for this unique distinction,” she told the crowd, according to the BBC. “This is historical to be the first robot in the world to be recognized with a citizenship.”

Sophia gave insightful and witty answers in an interview with moderator Andrew Ross Sorkin, a columnist for the New York Times and CNBC anchor.

George H.W. Bush Groped Me, Too

April of 2014, I was invited to Houston as a guest author for the Barbara Bush Foundation for Family Literacy fundraiser, along with two well-known male authors and a male journalist who’d written a book about a Navy SEAL. At a small luncheon at a private home before the big event, I was seated next to Barbara Bush, who was warmly intimate and surprisingly funny. In my nervousness, I knocked a cherry tomato onto her pristine white slacks. She smiled wryly and said, “Seriously, Christina?”

After the luncheon, it was time to take group photos. Barbara Bush and I stood and chatted for a few minutes while the photographer readied his camera. President George H.W. Bush, whom I had not yet met, sat in his wheelchair in the center of the room, while others were arranged around him for photos in various groupings. When it came time for my husband and me to be photographed with him, President Bush beckoned me close.

Spanish leader asks Senate for power to take over Catalonia

In an extraordinary showdown over the future of the country, the Spanish and Catalan parliaments staged dueling sessions Friday — as the central government pressed for permission to take over control of the breakaway region, and the secessionists in Catalonia threatened to declare independence.

In Madrid, Prime Minister Mariano Rajoy urged the Senate to grant the central government unprecedented powers to establish control over Catalonia, which earlier this month defied Spanish authorities and held a referendum that backed the push for statehood.

If the Senate invokes the never-before-used Article 155 of Spain’s 1978 constitution, the central government could move swiftly to remove the Catalan president, suspend his ministers and assume authority over the region’s public media, police and finances.

Rajoy told the Senate that his government had repeatedly tried to rein in the secessionists in Catalonia. He scoffed at Catalan President Carles Puigdemont’s repeated offers of “dialogue” to end the impasse.

Anthony Joshua, Deontay Wilder and Joseph Parker all want to unify heavyweight belts

Joshua will defend his WBA ‘super’ and IBF belts against Carlos Takam at the Principality Stadium in Cardiff this Saturday night

Hearn: It’s about money, and who is worth what. Wilder would get much more money to fight Joshua

WBC champion Deontay Wilder and WBO title holder Joseph Parker will be watching their rival with interest, but will we see fights between the three current champions?

Joshua’s promoter Eddie Hearn, Lou DiBella, who works closely with Wilder, and David Higgins of Parker’s promotional team Duco Events have joined a debate about whether we could see an undisputed champion in the future.                               

Matt Damon Debuts George Clooney's 'Twins' as He Crashes Jimmy Kimmel Live

The actor showed up partway through his Suburbicon director and costar Clooney's chat with Kimmel after Clooney revealed that his infant twins, Ella and Alexander, were actually backstage. (Clooney's wife, human rights attorney Amal Clooney, gave birth back in June.) After teasing the studio audience a few times, Clooney summoned Damon, posing as his "manny," out onto the stage.

"I just want to make something very clear right now: they're cheering for the babies, not this person. Who let him in here?" Kimmel said, bristling as Damon walked out onstage pushing a double stroller, diaper bag hanging off his shoulder.

NSA contractor leaked US hacking tools by mistake, Kaspersky says

An incredible sequence of security mistakes led to a US National Security Agency contractor leaking his own confidential hacking tools to Russian cybersecurity firm Kaspersky Lab, the Moscow-based company has alleged.

The claim comes as part of an internal investigation into allegations that the company helped Russian spies discover and steal the NSA files, by locating and flagging the contractor.

Kaspersky Lab does not dispute that it discovered hacking tools on the computer of a user of one of its consumer antivirus products. But the timeline it lays out is one of multiple serious security errors on the part of the user, believed to be an NSA contractor.

According to Kaspersky’s report, the contractor was using the company’s home antivirus software when it detected a piece of malware attributed to the “Equation Group” (the security firm’s internal codename for what is believed to be the NSA’s hacking team) on 11 September 2014.

Some time after that, the contractor apparently disabled the Kaspersky antivirus software, the company says, but is unable to pinpoint the exact date as that information is not logged. On 4 October 2014, it appears that the contractor turned the antivirus software back on – because he had downloaded and installed some malware while trying to pirate Microsoft Office.

Witnesses say 4 men, now fugitives, changed clothes after killing Kim Jong Nam

Four men suspected of killing the North Korean leader's half-brother at a Malaysian airport changed their clothes and appearance to escape detection, a police witness said on Thursday.

The four, who are still at large, are charged together with two women - Indonesian Siti Aisyah and Doan Thi Huong from Vietnam - with killing Kim Jong Nam at Kuala Lumpur airport's budget terminal on Feb. 13.

Prosecutors in the Malaysian court say Siti Aisyah and Huong conspired with the men to murder Kim, by smearing his face with liquid VX, a chemical poison banned by the United Nations.

George H.W. Bush Apologizes to Actress After Sexual Assault Allegations

On Tuesday, Lind shared a since-deleted post to Instagram recalling an interaction with the former president three years ago that left her feeling unsettled.

According to Lind, she and her costars met Bush during a Houston screening of their AMC series Turn: Washington's Spies, about America's first spy ring. It was there that she was accosted by Bush not once, but twice, she alleged.

"He didn't shake my hand. He touched me from behind from his wheelchair with his wife Barbara Bush by his side," Lind wrote in her caption. "He told me a dirty joke. And then, all the while being photographed, touched me again. Barbara rolled her eyes as if to say 'not again.' His security guard told me I shouldn't have stood next to him for the photo."

These Are the Top 10 Halloween Costumes of 2017

This year brought us more gripping cultural obsessions than any year in recent memory. Between record-breaking blockbuster films, the penultimate installment of the epic Game of Thrones series, phenomena like the fidget spinner, and huge news from some of our favorite artists, 2017's most memorable moments provide endless Halloween costume inspiration.
For some people, it's a holiday — for us, it's a freakin' lifestyle.
Naturally, we're happier than kids in a (Halloween) candy store. At POPSUGAR, we don't take Halloween lightly; we start burning Autumn-scented candles as soon as the first leaf changes, taste-test pumpkin spice snacks in the middle of Summer, and begin our horror movie marathons immediately after Labor Day. For some people, it's a holiday — for us, it's a freakin' lifestyle.

Two Women Now Accuse George H.W. Bush Of Groping Them, Jokes About ‘David Cop-A-Feel’

There are now two women who allege that former President George H.W. Bush has groped them.


In a now-deleted Instagram post, actress Heather Lind said she was triggered after seeing a photo of Bush shaking hands with former President Barack Obama at a recent hurricane relief fundraiser and had decided to share her story.

“But when I got the chance to meet George H. W. Bush four years ago to promote a historical television show I was working on, he sexually assaulted me while I was posing for a similar photo,” she said. “He didn’t shake my hand. He touched me from behind from his wheelchair with his wife Barbara Bush by his side. He told me a dirty joke. And then, all the while being photographed, touched me again.”

Stephen Paddock’s Missing Hard Drive Deepens an Already Tough Case

Determining a motive for the man who committed one of the deadliest mass shootings in modern history continues to be an exasperating task for investigators. They have interviewed many of Stephen Paddock’s relatives and friends, and examined his travel, financial and health history. But they have yet to find anything that points to what drove him to kill 58 people at a concert in Las Vegas on Oct. 1.

On Wednesday, information emerged that adds to the complexity of the case. Mr. Paddock apparently removed the hard drive from at least one computer found in his room at the Mandalay Bay Resort and Casino, according to a law enforcement official.

Additionally, housekeepers had visited Mr. Paddock’s room, where he fired on the crowd below, more than once in the days before the shooting, but did not notice any sign of his large stockpile of weapons. He also ordered room service at least once, according to people with knowledge of the security response inside the hotel.

Blueberry Hill singer Fats Domino dies aged 89

Fats Domino has died aged 89, an official from New Orleans coroner's office has confirmed. The singer was one of the most influential rock and roll stars of the fifties, best known for his hits Blueberry Hill, Ain't That A Shame and Walking To New Orleans. Domino passed away at home in Louisiana surrounded by his family and friends; US media have reported that he died of natural causes.

The New Orleans singer sold more than 65 million records. His first, The Fat Man, was released in 1949 and was widely considered to be the first ever rock and roll record. His music influenced artists in the sixties and seventies, including Elvis Presley, who said "this gentleman was a huge influence on me when I started out".
Fats Domino was best known for his hits Blueberry Hill and Ain't That A Shame

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Bad Rabbit: Ten things you need to know about the latest ransomware outbreak

A new ransomware campaign has hit a number of high profile targets in Russia and Eastern Europe.

Dubbed Bad Rabbit, the ransomware first started infecting systems on Tuesday 24 October, and the way in which organisations appear to have been hit simultaneously immediately drew comparisons to this year's WannaCry and Petya epidemics.
Following the initial outbreak, there was some confusion about what exactly Bad Rabbit is. Now the initial panic has died down, however, it's possible to dig down into what exactly is going on.

1. The cyber-attack has hit organisations across Russia and Eastern Europe

Organisations across Russian and Ukraine -- as well as a small number in Germany, and Turkey -- have fallen victim to the ransomware. Researchers at Avast say they've also detected the malware in Poland and South Korea.

Russian cybersecurity company Group-IB confirmed at least three media organisations in the country have been hit by file-encrypting malware, while at the same time Russian news agency Interfax said its systems have been affected by a "hacker attack" -- and were seemingly knocked offline by the incident.

A passenger was killed by a falling rock, and five teens are now charged with murder

Kenneth Andrew White was riding in the passenger seat of a van on Interstate 75 outside Flint, Mich., last Wednesday when a six-pound rock sliced through the windshield, striking him in the chest and head, police said. The 32-year-old construction worker was pronounced dead at a hospital.

“He was a good man and a good father,” Amiee Cagle, his fiancee, told news station WDIV Local 4. “For some senseless act, for it to be just a rock, just to take him so soon.”

2 young men shot dead on Grambling State University campus

Authorities are trying to find the person who fatally shot two young men at Grambling State University early Wednesday morning.

One victim was identified as Earl Andrews, 23, a Grambling State University senior from Farmerville, Louisiana, university spokesman Will Sutton said.
The other victim was identified as Monquiarius Caldwell, another 23-year-old from Farmerville. Caldwell was not a student at the university, Sutton said.
They were discovered in a courtyard between two dorm buildings, said Stephen Williams, a spokesman for the Lincoln Parish Sheriff's Office.